Every year, thousands of Pennsylvania couples make the difficult decision to end their marriages. Studies indicate that parents who go through a divorce raise healthier, happier children when they commit to co-parenting. If you and your ex share an adopted child, there are some aspects of co-parenting specific to your situation.
Remaining sensitive
When dealing with a divorce, it’s easy to become so focused on your own stress that you lose sight of the issues your child is facing. Adopted children typically already have a history of loss, so the end of your marriage serves as another blow to their safety and security. Be sensitive to their needs and remember that they’re facing a unique type of pain.
Be adaptable
Divorce doesn’t have to be adversarial. You and your ex can work together for the good of your children. Many experts recommend that parents set up their own custody arrangements without a judge’s involvement.
When you and your ex come to a custody arrangement, remember to remain adaptable. If your child needs some extra time with either of you, be willing to adapt to their needs. Creating an atmosphere of cooperation makes things easier for your children in the long term.
Be understanding
You and your ex likely have your own unique approaches to parenting. While consistency is important in some areas, remember that it’s acceptable for your ex to handle some situations differently than you. As long as your ex provides quality care for your child, don’t fight over the little things.
The end of your marriage creates a new normal among your family, including your adopted child. Recognizing that your adopted child has unique needs based on his or her past allows you to better focus on providing them the care they need.
